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Bette A. Ludwig, PhD 🌱's avatar

I used to nanny for a girl who had an arch nemesis in kindergarten. I still remember her name – Lauren. Gosh those two were like oil and water! Lol

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Renée Reese's avatar

Kindergarten is intense!! lol

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Giana Vasoncellos's avatar

2 and 4!!! 🔥🔥🔥

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Renée Reese's avatar

🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽

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First Saturn Return's avatar

Hi, Renée! Happy birthday! You have just entered a 7-year cycle ruled by Jupiter. Now, you harvest all the crops that were growing through your late twenties up until now. Some of these reflections align with the astrological changes you're experiencing due to your age. I loved your thoughts, and #2 deeply resonated with me! Looking forward to reading the second part.

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Renée Reese's avatar

Thank you! ☺️

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First Saturn Return's avatar

My pleasure!

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Chusana Prasertkul's avatar

I love posts like this. I'm turning 40 next year and said to my husband that 30s was the best phase of my life, so far.

From birth until our 20s, most of us are still under our parents' care and consideration. 30s was about exploring the world in our own terms. By late 30s, we start to understand the complexities of the world, as well as the people (keyword here is "start to"). Consequences of our decision and action start to reveal and for the first time in my life, I feel more in control. Letting go of things and notions we used to hold on to. It's liberating!

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Renée Reese's avatar

Yes! I love my 30s so much. “Exploring the world on my own terms” is exactly how it feels. I had people laugh at me when I said I just knew in my bones that my 30s would be better than my 20s. Life is, of course, not perfect, but I have such a better sense of my identity and important things like emotional regulation lol

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Juliana Choo's avatar

Yes! It's so freeing to be rid of all that! I relate to all of it, even the one about hair (for me it was grey hair!)

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Renée Reese's avatar

Still working on not caring about grey hair lol but love that!

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Julie Fontes's avatar

I’m seriously so proud of my age and don’t get the secrecy that people ascribe to the amount of years they’ve been on earth. WHO CARES??? I’m 44 and I survived every damn year of it.

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Renée Reese's avatar

Yesss I’m proud of my 35 years!!

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Katrina Eresman's avatar

I just turned 35 and it feels like such a dramatic age. I'm trying not to care about it, but agree that the 30 under 30 effect makes it haaard.

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Renée Reese's avatar

lol it does feel dramatic! It was the first age I felt weird about as it approached … I was like I’m old enough to run for president ?!

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Mariola's avatar

Number one! I can relate. Still figuring it out 😉

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Renée Reese's avatar

🫶🏽🫶🏽🫶🏽

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Gala's avatar

I loved these reflections🌻

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Renée Reese's avatar

Thank you so much !!

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Dorine Hélène's avatar

Loved reading this!! Number 5 for me and i’m not 35 yet!!! I treat platonic love same as romantic love and have no problem ending something that doesn’t work for me.

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Renée Reese's avatar

And thanks for reading !

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Renée Reese's avatar

Yessss! It’s been so powerful for me

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CyberComa's avatar

#5 for me. I started figuring that whatever wasn't for me was against me. Figured life was too short and my time was too limited. I'd rather enjoy my own company, than spend any of my time in the company of someone who isn't for me.

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Renée Reese's avatar

Yes exactly!

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Jackie R's avatar

2 made me wince. Sisterrrrrs though, that liberation! 🥲

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Renée Reese's avatar

Whew, you get it

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Renée Reese's avatar

oh wow, thank you so much for sharing, really great perspective!! It is definitely a gift

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Megan Hubbert's avatar

I really relate to #2. I spent a lot of time as a kid/teen helping manage my parents' emotions, and as an adult, that's manifested in trying to anticipate people's emotions all the time. It's an exhausting way to live, and I've found so much freedom in the mantra "Nobody's mad at you. If they are, they'll tell you. If they don't, that's on them."

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jae's avatar

#2 though - “you can be the sweetest, juiciest peach ever, but not everyone likes peaches.” The first time I heard that, it was a game changer 🤯🤯🤯

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Courtney Bowers's avatar

#1 hits deep. A few years back, I was working at a coffee shop and chatting with a coworker who was 18 and she was teasing me for being in my late 20s. She stopped dead in her tracks when I said I liked how old I was...I think it genuinely hadn't occurred to her before that you could like growing older.

When I was a little kid, my teenaged babysitter died in a car accident and I think of how I'm now twice the age she was when she died. Growing older is such a gift, thank you for sharing these 🫶

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